Obviously miserable people are the worst. But those of us who appear to be happy on the outside yet speak with forked tongue and a malicious undertone are even more deadly. Sometimes those jokes aren't just jokes. But barbs to make the butt of the "joke" feel bad in some way in order to make the joker feel better about their miserable existence.
Then, when this same person tells someone else all your business... things that you brought to them knowing that these things they would take to their grave. Not knowing that inside this person was already dead. This person you call friend, this person to whom you supposedly can't imagine your life without, this person you call friend is tearing you down every chance they get. Why? Jealousy. That green dress that we throw on when we are having a fat day, a bad hair day, a not-so-cute day, a low-self-esteem day.
Having battled a jealous spirit in the past, I know how it feels to want someone else to see what you only imagine you are seeing. Wanting this person to not live their life the way they are and succeed in such a manner. Never truly being happy for this person because you want this person' life, looks, charm, opportunities, friends, experiences, knowledge. And instead of doing better for yourself, you lash out & try to destroy them. Not always s concious effort, but definitely a continuous one.
We encounter these people all the time. And we HAVE to be weary of them. Anyone telling you all of someone's business that they call friend is certainly doing the same to you. And it is all out of jealousy. Usually these people surround themselves with the caliber of people they could never become & attempt to leech and/or glean these peoples mannerisms, lifestyles, everything they try to become these people that they are not nor were raised to be. And in essence become flawed copies of these people with higher quality class and tastes. All of this from a desire to be someone other than who they are.
So to these people, I implore you to love yourselves. I had to learn to love me & be me & do me regardless. I had to learn that the spirit of jealousy should not be acted upon, but identified and corrected. You have to bring into question WHY you feel this way and be real with yourself. If you can't behonest with yourself you can't be honest with anyone else.
There are people who can identify insincerity instanly & those who seem to thrive on it. You need to know yourself enough to know which one of this is you.
But in the meantime in between time, I think people need to not just identify that green dress they put on, but figure out why they wear it so often.