Tuesday, September 7

One Man's Treasure...

is another man's option...

I've recently had to go about the task of informing various males that I am indeed no longer mingling. As J would say, I'm going steady. And this information, to some has been a bit of a blow, perhaps JUST to their ego. But it has led me to see that some guys don't want you, but they don't NOT want you. Dumb, right? There have been guys that I was dealing with, talking to, etc. for a year or more that have never mentioned anything remotely serious with me. So how then can they be upset that I have moved on? Oddly enough this blog may be the way that some of them find out. But I didn't feel compelled to call them all up and have "the talk". There is really no talk to have, honestly.

If I talk to you once in a blue moon about nothing serious or in particular, should I call you up out of the blue and say: "Hey, I know you don't care enough about me to be with me, but someone does and has decided to and I have taken him up on that. I hope there are no hard feelings as you will no longer be able to call me randomly and try to flirt with me, make me feel special and keep your options open. ok?" *end call*

For some it's about having options, but never having to choose. I never pressed any of them out for status because ultimately I knew, even if I was #1, there were other numbers. So now that there are no other numbers for me, can they really try to pull rank?  Am I using too many metaphors & idioms & analogies & such? have I even used ANY?

Anyway... options aren't open-ended, eventually you will have to choose. Sometimes the choice is made for you.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yay! These black men in this city think they can pull that mess keeping women as options because supposedly we're not special enough. Well, look, some of us just haven't found the right man yet and when we do you're wondering what you missed out on!

Good luck to you, BC! Hopefully he's the RIGHT one. And treats you no less than the way he should...so hard to come by these days!

CB said...

I agree with anonymous, many men in this city believe they can exercise all options available to them, which includes the one they have been talking to once every 3 months for the last year. Maybe because what they wanted didnt' work out in their favor, or maybe because they have so many in rotation that they are only able to get back to you every three months. Either way, happy to hear you have found someone that doesn't mind 'claiming' you and have as much fun with it as possible.

B. Cooley said...

Uh thanks, CB... I think. Somehow that didn't FEEL like a compliment lol

{Ms. P} said...

*tsk*

"Study long, study wrong" -Pimp C
"You move your feet, you lose your seat." -3rd grade logic

Anonymous said...

watch out for the ditched ones.... the next thing you know, they'll be climbing in your windows... snatching your people up....