What LIES Beneath

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If you know nothing else about me, you know I am a strong proponent of the truth. When all else fails, it's all you have.

A male friend told me recently that he lied to his female friend to "protect her feelings". *record scratch* Don't we already know that this is a HUGE no-no? *wags finger*

Once he told me the story that involved 2 glasses of wine and a denial of responsibility or rememberance thereafter, I called BS on the girl! I said  & I quote:
She's lying
Congrats
Yer even
*bangs gavel*

She disavows any knowledge of her actions after 2 glasses of wine.

from: http://queenofsports.com/

Seriously, 2 glasses of wine couldn't get a 4 year old drunk enough to forget anything! So it seems, my dear friend, was suckered into a lie with a lie. It seems that the girl must have been testing him, why? I don't have ALL the answers, people. But I DO know why she lied....

Who hasn't gotten some liquid courage in them & said or done something they always wanted to or that seemed like a good idea at the time. Only to realize, the idea WASN'T that good afterall or the repercussions could be MUCH more than they thought initially. If they even thought about it beforehand. You rationalize it with a lil: "Eff it, I'm 'drunk'!" Even though, if you were truly drunk, you wouldn't relaly be able to think, right?

Poor thing woke up the next morning, in search of her panties & her whole make him wait 6 months plan was out the window! QUICK- what do I do? How do I fix this? THINK, girl, THINK! YES... it was the wine!

This lie led to HIS lie which led to them both lying under a pile of  lies. Now she's nto talking to him & he's not feeling great about that. But clearly she needs to be mad at herself, because she started the lie ball rolling. Now it's barrelling downhill and picking up anger and frustration & speed.

Had she followed my cardinal rule of being honest with YOURSELF first, she could've just said: You know what? I was NOT intending to do that & while I don't regret it, it probably shouldn't happen again for a while.

Done & done.

Letting Go & Holding On

This blog changed titles twice.

Not sure what I REALLY want to say here, but I am going to say something.

There was a point in time, earlier this year when i was afraid to let go. I was afraid to make up my mind. I was scared to put my foot down. I had chalked somethings up as a loss because I was to afraid to stand up for myself. I was defeated and was OK with that. Little did I know, the same thing was going on on the other side of this. But in a much different way. This person was holding on to something LITERALLY because they, as they finally admitted, were afraid I would stop talking to them. I didn't want to hold on out of fear, they didn't want to let go.

The item in question was one I had chalked up as a loss. But recently I have been urged to handle this business as it has reared it's head and become an inconvenience for the beau. I am fairly certain that it will be uncomfortable and inconvenient and maybe even involve some tension, but it is something I need to take care of. It is time to trade places. They need to let go of me & I need to hold on to me.

Sorry if this made no sense at all. I had to get it off my chest though.

How YOU Doin?

About 2 weeks ago while on my way to buy tickets with Mimi for Cirque du Soliel- Ovo Which I am soooo excited about seeing!)

Mimi called me all excited & said: "Guess what, we were picked for WENDY!" I instantly knew what she meant, we were going to be on the Wendy Williams Show. I was super excited, and immediately started to plan my outfit. 

Initially, we thought about taking the bus, but for a day trip, we wanted to be able to get in & out of the city at our convenience. So we decided to drive. A few days later, she got an email stating that we had to wear ll pink for Breast Cancer Awareness. So the outfit I had in mind had to be redesigned. A few days after that we  found out that the guests were going to be PATTI LABELLE & NENE & SHEREE from Real Housewives of Atlanta. We left DC around 1:45 AM and arrived in New York around 6:30 AM. I had already reserved a spot & guaranteed a rate at a nearby parking lot, so we had no problems parking & walking to the studio. The original plan was to stop outside of the city & change clothes, but since Mimi was sleeping most of the ride, I decided to just head into the city. We instead changed our clothes in the car while the parking attendant pretended not to notice. It was still dark outside & there were only three people in line at the studio when we walked by. Vaguely familiar with the area, we walked to 8th Avenue to try and procure some breakfast. We found a bagel shop that had just what we needed: hot breakfast and a clean bathroom. After eating breakfast & putting on our faces, we headed back to the studio to wait in line. There were a few other people on line when we got back. We spoke & waited. it misted & rained & misted, but everyone was ice & in good spirits, so it was cool. I tried to take pics of the banners outside, but the lights on the building kept interfering. 

meh...

ANYWAY, around 7 something a handsome young man comes out and starts setting up line queues. He remarks how early we are & we remark how CUTE he is. Hmmmm, I didn't get a pic of him, I just realized. He looks like a young, slim Taye Diggs, like his little brother Shaye lol. The list was checked TWICE & we were finally herded inside a little after 8. The waiting room was cute!

and so were we

Everyone was primping in front of the long wall of mirrors, except for THIS chick who forgot to brush her hair down over her tracks:

Anyone that knows Mimi & I should already know we made FAST friends in line and tried our best to sit with them. We ended up only sitting with one of them, a nice lady from The Bronx whose husband ditched her when he found out he had to wear PINK lol. I'm not sure what criteria they use to seat audience members, but they made me sit on the end, Mimi in the middle, and our girl from the Bronx on the aisle. Anyone without pink on was given a pink pashmina, cuz they were NOT playin!  The new set is SUPER cute, I fell in LOVE with the wallpaper.

We had a BALL, the show went by so FAST! Wendy was really nice & friendly and actually quite pretty in person. She didn't look like a man at all lol. Patti LaBelle was funny and gorgeous in person. The lady that was chosen from the audience to taste the food was part of our front of the line crew, we were so excited for her because she had THROWN together an outfit because she was already packed & in NY when she got the email about wearing pink. She was chosen by the producers just for being SUPER fab! GO LIZ! 

After the show, we were let out of the studio on the BACK end & no one knew where they were. Our goal then was to EAT & go to Crumbs! We took the train just a few stops because it was so cold & rainy out. The pizza was great, the Starbucks was better & Crumbs had just introduced a new black bottom cupcake that included brownies & cheesecake! I got two of those (one for me & one for him), a samoa cupcake, and a strawberry shortcake cookie. $15 worth of nummy goodness!

We ended up only being one stop from the car. We hit the road around 2:30 & after just one pit stop THIS time, we hit DC at 20 to 7. I had a meeting at church & by the time I got home, I had been awake for 22 hours. But it was SO worth it. I chose a random date in November when I requested tickets, so maybe we'll be back on the tube!

HOW YOU DOIN?

Tell Them That It's Human Nature

Last week, Bishop Eddie Long was accused of indecencies & such with boys. Yesterday in the Metro Area, the big story was about Gilbert Arenas not being happy to be back playing in Washington. And just now I got the news that Mario was arrested for allegedly of assaulting his mother.

They say people were laid out crying in the aisles at Bishop Long's church. When Arenas was initially charged, they got rid of all traces of him: posters, jerseys, everything. And now with the news of mario, I am waiting to see the backlash, uproar, and on and on.

It seems so many people put these celebrities on a pedestal. Somehow they had become superhuman. Beyond persecution. Above reproach. They have somehow been denied the "privilege" of making mistakes or doing something dumb. Imagine if that dumb thing you did that time in college was forever etched in everyone's memory & at the age of 45 people were stil "tsk tsk tsk"ing about that one time at band camp.
Now let's get one thing straight, an anti-gay preacher POSSIBLY sleeping with men is NOT okay. A grown man bringng guns to work is NOT cool. A young man allegedly putting his hands on his mother is NOT the business. I'm not saying any of that.

What I AM saying is these people are PEOPLE and people do things that aren't ok, cool, or the business. Sometimes accusations aren't true, sometimes the story behind things is totally different from what the media portrays and sometimes people DID DAT! lol

You can wonder why, or speculate how could they. But, in the end, shrugging it off is probably the best idea. You put too much stock in people & they will disappoint you, sometimes even a little bit. Admiration is one thing, idolizing is a whole other animal. Take Bishop Long for example, some folks put so much faith in a MAN that it detracted from their personal connection to their own spiritual welfare is scary. HOW can you put THAT much trust in a man that wears muscle shirts & a toupee that resembles mushy, moldy oodles of noodles. I don't care what he was preaching, I would ALWAYS be leary of that soggy dog on his head. I am not taking anything away from the work he has done or the lives he has saved but, seriously!

Sometimes we have to use common sense and put ourselves in other people's shoes. These people you IDOLIZE, are just people. And people, by nature, do all manner of things for which there is no logical explanation. Bishop Long has  not been proven guilty of anything. Arenas has served his time. And no one really knows WHAT went on @ Mario's mama's house. These people aren't superheroes, their human beings. CHILL OUT!